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The difference in affection, of parents towards their several children, is many times unequal;  and sometimes unworthy;  especially in the mothers;  as Solomon saith, A wise son rejoiceth the father, but an ungracious son shames the mother.  A man shall see, where there is a house full of children, one or two of the eldest respected, and the youngest made wantons;  but in the midst, some that are as it were forgotten, who many times, nevertheless, prove the best.  The illiberality of parents, in allowance towards their children, is an harmful error;  makes them base;  acquaints them with shifts;  makes them sort with mean company;  and makes them surfeit more when they come to plenty.  And therefore the proof is best, when men keep their authority towards the children, but not their purse.  Men have a foolish manner (both parents and schoolmasters and servants) in creating and breeding an emulation between brothers, during childhood, which many times sorteth to discord when they are men, and disturbeth families.  The Italians make little difference between children, and nephews or near kinsfolks;  but so they be of the lump, they care not though they pass not through their own body.  And, to say truth, in nature it is much a like matter;  insomuch that we see a nephew sometimes resembleth an uncle, or a kinsman, more than his own parent;  as the blood happens.  Let parents choose betimes, the vocations and courses they mean their children should take;  for then they are most flexible;  and let them not too much apply themselves to the disposition of their children, as thinking they will take best to that, which they have most mind to.  It is true, that if the affection or aptness of the children be extraordinary, then it is good not to cross it;  but generally the precept is good, optimum elige, suave et facile illud faciet consuetudo.  Younger brothers are commonly fortunate, but seldom or never where the elder are disinherited.

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